Monday, January 31, 2011

Deal Breakers...

What do you consider a deal breaker?
  • In a friendship?
  • A romantic relationship?
  • A marriage?
To me it all comes down to promises kept. If you promise to do something for someone you do it. If you promise you won't do something because you know you shouldn't and they asked you not to you don't do it.

Recently my husband made some promises to me in an effort to recover what we once had. He does not want to keep his end of the bargain now, says he didn't realize what he was promising. But to me not keeping these promises is a deal breaker and I'm ready to walk.

I feel like a bitch if I put it out there like that and yet this is how I feel. Do what you said you would, keep your promises or I will no longer feel bound to keep mine.


Jennifer Leeland said...

I can only answer for myself.
My deal breaker with first husband was that I wanted children and he didn't. I probably could have dealt with that, but it also included a ton of things that he refused to change. Our sex life, our intimacy was stuck and he didn't want to get beyond it.

As far as a deal breaker with my current husband, I think disrespect is a biggie. Most of the time, my husband respects me. But when he doesn't, I call him on it.
I think if he decided to continue to disrespect me and didn't stop, I'd boot him.

Mark said...

You just touched on one of my big issues with my wife. She makes promises simply to end an uncomfortable conversation, but they never get carried out. Some I can understand because they involve her OCD and are more of an issue. However things such as doing things that have nothing at all to do with the OCD and saying "I forgot" or "I did" when she didn't ... along with other issues has me ready to walk as well. I empathize with you on this one.

Queen-Size funny bone said...

If you think about it the very first promise you make to each other are your wedding vows. And how many keep love, cherish til death do us part. I'd like to sue my hub for breach of contract

K13 said...

I totally understand & the deals here have been broken but I'm stuck due to finances etc.

What I think though is the minute the walking actually happens, more promises will be made to convince the walker to stay...

gpc said...

It would be a deal breaker for me. I have stayed through many deal breakers, which, I now think (looking back) was a huge breach of my deal with ME! Honestly, if I don't respect and love myself, who on earth will?