He told me that he thought it would be easier for me to find a job there. I asked him if I found a full time job here would he lay off? He said he would.
I'm on a mission. I am NOT leaving my family behind again to go be near his family who he doesn't even really like. They are pressuring him to come home when he talks to them and I don't appreciate that. For 7 years we lived in a house about 40 minutes drive from where his sister and now his mother live. His mom would come down to visit the sister and they would NEVER come visit us. In 7 years his family came to our house 2 times! We always had to go to them and then we would hear stories about how they went to the casino and drove within a mile of our house but couldn't be bothered to call and see if we wanted to go or to stop by and say hello. One time they stopped and got off the highway to go to an antique store at the end of our subdivision - they were just a minute from our house and they did not call or stop by.
We have lived in NY for 5 years and they have never made the trip to see us although they promise to every year. We always have to go to them - ALWAYS.
In the 10 years I lived in Cincinnati - my parents came out 4 times, my sister 6 times, granted not a lot of times but it was a 12-14 hour drive and they did make the effort. His family drove right by and never did. I see my family 2-3 times a month sometimes more - we live a mile apart but they do not intrude or hover. I think things are great. My husband claims that he takes the back seat to my family. He claimed a lot of things that aren't true last night - bottom line he wants to go back to Ohio and it doesn't matter what I want and he will say all manner of hurtful and untrue things if he thinks it will get him his way.
So why on earth would I want to totally uproot my life? I don't.
If I get a full time job and this nonsense doesn't stop? Well I guess he can go without me and I'll be just fine.