Presumptuous...

So it's Monday - hubby's best friend from high school and his wife were here for a 5 day weekend. They came Thursday around noon and are leaving tonight at 6:30. It's been a LONG weekend. Don't get me wrong, I like them a lot but having guests in your home for 5 days is tiring. Today I'm at work, so is my husband, they are at my house alone. I thought they were flying out this morning. We told them we couldn't take a lot of time off but I guess this was a cheaper flight.

We hung around the house Thursday night - I cooked for them. Friday while hubby was at work I was set to take them sight seeing - they didn't want to go anywhere so we sat at home all day. I could have gone to work, but it was nice to not have to. Friday night we all went out with some friends of mine and got drunk, sang karaoke, and had a good time. But in their drunkenness on Friday night some things came out that they may not even remember telling me. They told me that they already bought our Christmas present - tickets to come spend Christmas with them and not to tell my hubby. At the time I was a bit drunk too and didn't say much but promised not to tell.

But the more I think about it the more it kind of irks me that they would be that presumptuous. We both have families, we take turns spending Christmas with them. Last year we were with his family, this year with my family. I don't want to give up Christmas with my family! :( Also hubby's mom has mentioned she may come here for Christmas - she has NEVER been here (we've lived here 3 years) and it would mean a lot to him for her to visit. If his mom decides to come there is no way he would blow her off like that. Part of me wants to talk to them about this but the other part wants to hide my head in the sand and pretend they never said it. Seriously though we have to make at least twice as much as they do and I want to tell them we can buy our own tickets and a more appropriate gift might be a bottle of wine or some movie tickets and not $600+ worth of airfare over a holiday we'd rather spend with family.

They also told me numerous times - that should he ever need anything to call them and he'd be here to take care of it. My instant reaction was to shout - THAT'S MY JOB!!!! But instead I told them that we had things well under control and the only thing he needed from them was friendship.

So the weekend was fun - the men picked up where they left off (and acted like teenagers a bit to boot) and I clicked with his wife too. They can be good friends for us both with some time, but they are pushing a bit too hard and my first instinct when someone does that is to push back.